About this game
Play Deep Questions together
A deep question is useful when it helps two people understand each other, not when it forces a dramatic confession. This deck moves through values, needs, repair, identity, and shared direction without pretending every answer must match. Take turns, ask before offering advice, and leave room for an answer to change. The follow-up on each card can deepen the conversation, but it is optional. Curiosity and emotional safety matter more than finishing quickly.
How to play Deep Questions
- 01
Agree on a comfortable time limit and make skipping or pausing available to both partners.
- 02
Read one question aloud, then let each person answer without interruption or rebuttal.
- 03
Reveal the follow-up only when both people want to explore the first answer more deeply.
- 04
Before advancing, name one thing you understood better rather than deciding whose view was correct.
Why couples like it
- Value-focused questions uncover the reasons underneath preferences and recurring disagreements.
- Optional follow-ups encourage depth without making every card emotionally demanding.
- A structured turn-taking format gives quieter partners room to finish a complicated thought.
Make the next round better
- Replace assumptions with clarifying questions such as “What does that mean to you?”
- Do not use an answer as evidence in a later argument; the game depends on conversational trust.
- Pause after a tender answer and ask what kind of response would feel supportive.
Deep Questions FAQ
How do we keep deep questions from becoming an argument?
Set a listening rule before you begin: no correcting, prosecuting, or solving during the first answer. If tension rises, pause the deck and schedule a rested conversation.
Do partners need to agree on their answers?
No. The point is accurate understanding, not identical values or preferences. A respectful difference can be more useful than a rushed agreement.
Can we revisit the same deep question later?
Yes. Answers change with experience. Revisiting a card after several months can show growth and reveal which needs or values have stayed steady.